A Conflict That's Not a Conflict

So, CA's grandmother(s) are not doing well. I can't determine which one he is closer to, but his feelings seem to be tied together more with his mother's mother, since he has such an affinity for his mother and she is extremely close to her mother. Either way, he spent last weekend down south to see his mother's mother (to henceforth be abbreviated as MM), and came back feeling really upset. He's been dealing with it all extremely well, but he is going down south again this weekend to see his father's mother (to henceforth be abbreviated as FM). After coming back from seeing MM, he wants me to fly down with him the last weekend in August to meet her. I figure that once that happens with FM, he will want me to fly down there too.

So, where's the conflict?

The problem is that I still haven't met his parents. At least whilst visiting his MM, I am pretty sure his parents will be there. It seems like such an awkward occurrence to meet someone in a hospital room. "Hi, I know your mother is lying on her deathbed, but I'm your son's girlfriend. Check it out." I'm worried about being too quiet, or too boisterous, or too something. I understand fully that after having dated CA for this long, it's really strange to not go to a funeral for a loved one. So, I presume it's better to meet his parents at a hospital than a funeral and the longer I don't meet them the weirder it's going to be.

It would be nice to have the proverbial "in-laws" again. I miss "other" families; I always enjoyed the other of he-who-is-no-longer-named. So, it would be nice to know his family. I did really enjoy meeting his sister, who is now married. I take it for granted that he has become a part of my family so easily and so quickly. I take it for granted that my parents love picking up "wayward" couples; they like being the "family."

So, the conflict is whether I should go. It's not really a conflict even so I guess I shouldn't even call it that. I know what I'm going to do--I'm going to go. There is a part of me that fears that he is worried that his family and I will not get along. His mother is basically me, though, so I can't understand that fear (so perhaps I am projecting.) I guess my conflict comes in whether or not I should be fearful of this encounter. Should I be worried about meeting them? Is this a tacky way to meet them? Or am I showing how much I love and support their son? I hope it's the latter.